For Concerned Others

How to help an individual who is being stalked:

• Talk, listen, respect and be emotionally available.
• Accept the fact that the stalking is happening. Don’t minimize the behaviors that have occurred.
• Understand that it is not the individual's fault.
• Listen nonjudgmentally.
• Suggest options and actions but let him/her decide what action to take.
• Let him/her talk about his or her fears, but don't force a discussion.
• If you know the stalker do not share any information with him or her about the victim. Do state your desire for his or her behavior to stop. Be firm.
• Do not attempt to moderate between the victim and the stalker.
• Offer shelter if possible, but know and communicate your limits about your own safety and needs.
• Educate yourself on stalking and services available.
• Talk with people you can trust and take care of your own emotional/physical health.

Need Additional Help?
Contact the Oasis Program, Emerge! Center Against Domestic Abuse , or Wingspan Anti-Violence Project